3 Requirements to Starting Friendships

Far too many of us cannot define friendship.  We mistakenly think it’s “someone we like,” or “someone who is always there for us,” or “someone whose shoulder I can cry on.”  Not only are those inaccurate, but they leave us feeling like a good friendship is a matter of finding this “right” person who either is, or isn’t, a good friend.  But  healthy friendship isn’t discovered; it is developed.  And this is the class to walk you through how to use the Three Requirements of Healthy Relationships in the early stages of a friendship.  In this 1-hour class, taught by Shasta Nelson, you will learn:

  • The definition of friendship
  • The Three Requirements of all healthy and meaningful relationships
  • Five different ways to increase the positivity in our new friendships
  • The two most important actions we can take to increase familiarity in new friendships
  • How vulnerability should be safely shared in the early stages of making friends

Preventing Expectation Hangovers in our Friendships

Most relationships don’t come to their endings from huge fights and obvious wrong-doings as much as they do from unmet expectations! We get our feelings hurt when our friends don’t act the way we wish they would and feel less valued when they don’t reach out or respond in the ways we want.  In this 1 hour interview, featuring Christine Hassler, you will learn:

  • What is an expectation and how is it different from an agreement
  • The 4 steps of the Expectation Hangover Treatment Plan
  • The 3 most common disappointments in our friendships 
  • Best practices for approaching our unmet expectations in our friendships

Self-Acceptance: Loving Ourselves as a Best Friend

Our inability to completely love and accept ourselves can make it more difficult for us to receive and believe the acceptance of others.  Sometimes it’s not so much that our friends need to love us better but that we might not be as open to seeing the love that is already present.  In this 1 hour interview, featuring Christine Arylo, you will learn:

  • What part of your life is most challenging for you to accept
  • What is the definition of self-acceptance and how is that different from self-confidence or self-esteem
  • What are the 3 domains where we often suffer from lack of self-acceptance
  • How you can transform comparison to others into connection and inspiration

The 4 Ways to Rewire Our Brains for Safer Relationships

Far too many of us have been taught that healthy adults should be independent, without needing others; but brain science is now showing otherwise! Dr. Amy Banks, a leading expert on the connection between brain health and relationships, says “Relational neuroscience has been showing that people cannot reach their full potential unless they are in healthy connection with others.” In this 1 hour interview, featuring Dr. Amy Banks, you will learn:

  • How we can retrain our brain to go from stressed-out to Calm
  • How we can retrain our brain to go from feeling rejected to feeling more Accepted
  • How we can retrain our brain to go from feeling abused to developing Empathy
  • How we can retrain our brain to go from feeling lethargic to becoming more Energetic.

The 6 Steps to Fostering Empathy in our Relationships

For some of us, we may have hyper-empathy which leaves us taking on everyone’s feelings; whereas for others, we may need to make our empathy more accessible in our interactions. The invitation to all of us in this class is to identify how we can personally practice this skill more intentionally so that we can hopefully show up with others, and be able to feel with them, without taking it on ourselves. In this 1 hour interview, featuring Karla McLaren, you will learn:·      

  • What empathy is and what it isn’t.
  • The one place we struggle the most in showing empathy in our lives.
  • The Six Essential Aspects of Empathy
  • Two practices for improving our ability to accurately identify the right feelings
  • How to regulate your ability to hold the emotions of others
  • The solution to emotional burn out

How to Plan a Meaningful Gathering

Planning a gathering helps us become more comfortable with initiating, use our time efficiently by connecting with several friends at once, connect other women together, and really get to know each other as we keep conversation and interaction as our main focus.  Instead of seeing it as “entertaining” and either getting lost in the party planning or pulling away from it because it feels too stressful or scary, we all want to practice inviting people over in ways that feel nourishing and deepening.  In this 1-hour class, taught by Shasta Nelson, you will learn:

  • Ideas for getting past your fears about inviting people over
  • Why gathering friends from different places in your life increases your bonding
  • How to plan the logistics— the who, what, where, when, and how
  • A dozen ideas for who you can invite over, even if you don’t know very many people
  • The most important mantra when planning a gathering
  • The two most significant actions we must include at every event

Vulnerability: The 5 Pathways to Deeper Connection

Vulnerability is one of the Three Requirements to Healthy Relationships and yet far too many of us simply think of “being vulnerable” as sharing the most difficult things in our lives with others.  But the truth is that there are 5 different ways to practice vulnerability and in any relationship, our goal should be to pay attention to engaging in all of them. In this 1-hour class, taught by Shasta Nelson, you will learn:

  • The definition of vulnerability and why it’s crucial to bonding
  • How to be vulnerable in a safe and appropriate way
  • The 5 different pathways to deeper relationships
  • To identify the area of vulnerability that you most need to practice in your relationships

Making Time for Friendship

“Lack of time” is easily one of the chief complaints cited as the reason more of us don’t have the friendships we desire, so hopefully you’ll invest the time in the class!  In this 1 hour interview, featuring Samantha Ettus, you will learn:

  • How to let go of the guilt we carry for how we spend our time
  • The "Pie Life” process which will lead you to evaluation in all areas of your life
  • The value of articulating a vision for your friendships that feels good to you 
  • Goals that will help you make the friendships you want
  • 4 strategies for how we can make more time in our lives for friendships